4 Month Private Mentorship

Learn how to recognize and prioritize your needs (minus the people pleasing and guilt) so you can feel empowered to set better boundaries and ask for what you need in your relationship

As a highly sensitive, empathic woman with a caring heart, you may find yourself in a relationship where you struggle to express what you need.

You tend to be the constant giver and doer and the default assumption is that you’ll say yes.

Though you’re aware you need to set better boundaries and have been trying, you notice that even after you set them, holding them still causes some anxiety. You worry in the back of your mind that your partner will be upset or you’ll have to deal with the fall out later.

Somehow trying to keep one person happy may cause someone else to get upset.

You want to feel more relaxed and at peace in your relationship.

Up until now, keeping the peace has meant you ‘go with the flow,’ don’t express much of an opinion, and be ‘easy going.’

Though expressing yourself or even disagreeing with someone doesn’t have to cause a conflict, it feels that way in your body (nervousness, anxiety) when you express what you want or need.

Is it too much?
Am I being needy?
Will this inconvenience someone?

You’ve been able to work around this for a long time – I suspect you can read a room, tune into what people are feeling and anticipate their needs…this is one of your superpowers but when it’s ON all the time, it leads to a feeling of low grade anxiety and depletion especially when you’re not doing what you need to do to refuel your nervous system – and you’re not even sure how!

Perhaps you find yourself:

• Constantly second guessing yourself
• Avoiding spending time with your partner
• Exhausted and experiencing headaches or stomach issues

If you resonate with any of the above, first, let me assure you that you are not alone.

As a sensitive, empathic person myself, who overthinks like the best of them, I 💯 get the above and have done my share of work to understand why I’ve felt this way in relationships.

Not only have I studied the body, nervous system and trauma healing modalities (you can read more below about my experience), I really get this on a personal level… My sensitive nervous system always felt on edge and anxious until I learned what I needed to regulate it.

• I felt like it was my job to help people feel better if they were upset
• If I walked into a room filled with tension, I would want to figure out how to help
• I often felt extra cautious because I didn’t want to do or say anything ‘wrong’

Without realizing it, you may be bringing your past experiences into your current relationship.

Unresolved issues in early relationships, dynamics with parents and siblings, and experiences that felt traumatic (trauma with a small ‘t’ has a huge impact on us) can creep into your relationship when they are unconscious.

You —

• feel extra sensitive in difficult conversations
• stay quiet when you actually want to speak up
• freeze or overreact in tense situations and then regret it later
• hesitate to ask for what you need

Maybe you had experiences as a child where you got in trouble for speaking up. You might have grown up in a chaotic household where it felt safer to do as you were told and not bring attention to yourself. There may not have been an adult who could tune into your level of sensitivity so you didn’t feel understood even when you tried to express yourself.

There are many reasons why our needs can go unmet… but if we don’t acknowledge that on some level, our adult relationships suffer if we try to get these needs met by our partners, friends or even children.

In my four month mentorship, Reclaim Yourself, this is exactly the work that we do.

We work together on the following:

• Understand how your past experiences are impact your current relationship
• Learning to process your emotions (and the past) through somatic practices to recognize & heal core wounds
• Owning your needs, feeling safe and confident to speak up for yourself and show up fully as yourself in your relationships

You no longer need to trade in parts of yourself to feel connected or to feel like you belong. You’ll do the work to build up your inner sense of security so you’re not constantly seeking it from the outside.

When you have the right support to understand your life experiences, you feel safe enough to release those old patterns you’re holding onto that may have truly served you at one point in your life.

What if you could:

• take the time to rest when you need it before you get that migraine?
• be ok if someone is upset when you didn’t do what they wanted because you knew it was right for you?
• make decisions without second guessing, over-explaining or feeling like you have to justify yourself

This is what’s possible when you do the work to heal past difficult experiences and work with your nervous system so setting boundaries doesn’t feel overwhelming anymore.

You feel good about putting yourself first because you know that will ultimately serve you and the important people in your life.

In our work together, I take you through my unique method which I developed by blending my formal education and training, intuition, and decades of experience working with clients alongside my personal experience:

• Clarity – make the connection between early life experiences and how it’s contributing to your current relationship challenges/triggers; become more aware of who and what drains you of energy; learn what helps your nervous system feel more grounded and regulated so you have a baseline of what you need
• Courage – you are supported to feel through the emotions and experiences that were too overwhelming to work through in the past using gentle somatic practices that meet you where you are and help you work through your triggers; you learn practices to regulate and rewire your nervous system so the same circumstances and conversations no longer affect you in the same way
• Confidence – you put into practice what you’re learning and notice how nervous system healing combined with taking ACTION, speaking up for yourself, and expressing your needs shifts your confidence so it’s fully embodied; trusting your intuition, making decisions, and setting boundaries with ease and confidence becomes your new normal

This process is highly individualized to your needs…no more solely relying on podcasts, books and IG posts to piece things together. You’ve got a partner on your journey now. We take everything you already know and heal what’s stopping you from putting it into practice.

Imagine yourself in four months time feeling like a completely different person (but more like yourself than ever before).

Ready to invest in 1:1 support to help you make the change?

We would be a good fit if:

• you’re on a path of personal development and have done some healing, therapy or coaching
• you’ve read books and listened to podcasts about relationships and while it’s insightful, you’re not sure how to implement what you’re learning and you want the right 1:1 support
• practices like yoga or meditation take the edge off temporarily but you’re still easily triggered and your relationships still feel hard
• are ready to go beyond talking about your challenges, want support to feel your way through and are open to holistic, body based practices to heal your nervous system and put the past behind you

What you receive:

• • In depth questionnaire prior to our initial call to help you focus on your desired outcomes for the 4 month package
  • 90 minute initial session to identify 1-2 core challenges keeping you stuck in your relationship and establish a foundation for our work
  • 11- 60 minute virtual sessions (3 calls per month) – a combination of somatic healing, coaching and mentoring to help you understand and shift the impact past experiences/ trauma are having on your current relationships
  • Pre-session questionnaire to focus our calls
  • Email and/or voicenote communication (telegram) between sessions for reflections and support
  • Recording of a personalized guided meditation based on your needs
  • Insights from your natal astrology chart (optional) to help you identify what you need for emotional security and self-care, understand relationship tendencies and the impact of current transits to support your growth and healing
  • Curated resources shared based on your needs to support your healing process between calls saving you time and energy

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About your guide:

Manisha Tare is a somatic healing practitioner for conscious, smart women. Combining her formal education, extensive training, life experience and natural intuition, she guides her clients through a unique method to help them find clarity, heal + rewire their nervous systems to take courageous action and confidently set boundaries so they can transform and thrive in their relationship.

Manisha has a B.S. in Occupational Therapy from New York University and holds a Master's in Public Health from Columbia University. She's pursued advanced training in CranioSacral Therapy and SomatoEmotional Release through the Upledger Institute to develop her skills in facilitating trauma informed healing practices. She trained with Tami Lynn Kent, MSPT in her unique method, Holistic Pelvic Care™, to further study trauma resolution skills and how to access the creative potential of our bodies. She trained in the hatha and vinyasa methods of yoga in NYC and Washington DC and taught public classes in Washington DC for 9 years. She is currently enrolled in a somatic attachment therapy certificate program with the Embody Lab to further develop her skills in using somatic practices to help her clients transform their relationships.

She is a lifelong learner and has explored many holistic personal development tools including astrology with Eloise Meskanen via Cosmic Alchemy and uses it to help her clients better understand themselves to help empower them to lean into their authentic selves.